Anyone familiar with my post-breakup texts or emails will know I never get closure from them.
The thing my brain neglects to explain to my heart is that you don’t get closure by making a fool of yourself. You don’t get closure by understanding the reason for a break-up, or making it clear to the other person that you understand the reason. You don’t get closure by pretending you’re fine; you don’t get it by admitting you’re not.
The way you get closure–and I can hardly believe it’s taken me this long to figure out when I’m sure there are countless self-help books that say a similar thing, and I’m fairly certain I’ve read countless articles pronouncing the same, and I’ve possibly even told myself this before–is simply to not question the situation.